“Renni! He’s found you.”
Blood pounded in her head threatening to drown out her mother’s voice.
“John across the street said a strange man watched our house for two hours this morning. He pulled away when John came outside to go to work. He described the man, the car, and even copied the plate number. It’s him, Renni.” (unedited excerpt
from Hemphill Towers)
By the time stalking by a predator reaches this level, it has usually been going on for some time. Many women miss the subtle hints or choose to ignore them as just an annoyance. In Renni’s case, she realized her boyfriend had become controlling. She also knew he’d rather see her dead than let her go.
If a woman sees the same man wherever she goes, notices him repeatedly driving past her house, or receives unwanted phone calls or gifts, she very likely has a stalker. The word ‘unwanted’ sets apart a stalker from an admirer. It is better to contact the police at this point and err on the side of caution.
One should keep a journal of harassing phone calls, gifts (good ones or bad), times and dates a person watches your house, and of those chance encounters.
Online stalking has risen due to ease of internet access. The ability to switch from one ID to another makes online stalking difficult to prove. It can come in the form of email, chat room conversations, stealing personal info and posting it on the net for others to see, and just anything to harass or intimidate. If possible, get the person's IP address.
Don’t be paranoid about stalking, but never ignore that small inner voice that tells you something isn’t quite right about a person’s actions. Protect your private information, and in this day and age of online hackers, that’s not an easy task. Thankfully, most states now have anti-stalking laws making it easier to go after a perpetrator.